Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Are WE the People not ALL that IN THIS Together!?

When it comes to living in a world with HIV, realizing how misconstrued understandings and assumptions impact our thoughts and actions is critical to all of our well being. Myths about living with HIV and the transmission of the virus are the foundation of stigma. With no origin in factual information, these myths breed ignorance, instill fear, form bias and ultimately source new infections. Repairing the damage caused by stigma and producing a society that is inclusive of all people, regardless of status, is crucial to prevention efforts and quality of life post-diagnoses.

I've been asked; "Can you host a watch party Michael?
The first debate -- where Mitt Romney and Barack Obama will go head to head for the first time -- is on Wednesday, October 3rd. This is going to be great. It's an opportunity for all of 
us to get together, have some fun, and cheer our president on."

What a dilemma... This HOME, My HIVe in COVINGTON on The South Bank in the Northern Kentucky part of the Tri-State based in the Queen City HUB of Cincinnati would love to host such an event. Unfortunately, it is unstable and The City is having their BIG Commission Candidate Forum the same NIGHT!?

Hhm; back in July I asked "Do you know a good attorney for Landlord-Tenant matters!? 
Steven L Frank replied; "There is a lawyer running for school board named Halloran who works for the innocence project here in Covington. I bet she is plugged into public interest lawyers. The problem you'll have going to a normal lawyer is that they'll charge you more than $50 to take the case. You need legal aid lawyer or public interst lawyer if you are really dealing with a broader, class action issue which I think you may have."
Thank You, Kerry has been a great help. And so has my friend Farrah from BarMonet who is a former city attorney... Between us, I've been hooked up with LegalAid of The Bluegrass! Ms. Stewart enlightened and relieved me when she revealed experience with Dudley Properties II, LLC. 
Anyone know a place with multiple screens and ablity to show both Events...

 
A Day With HIV
Jeff Berry, Director of Publications, Test Positive Aware Network
"Anyone who has tested positive for HIV remembers the day that they first found out. Sept. 20, 1989, was a beautiful, warm, sunny day. I have this vivid memory 
of walking home from the doctor's office, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face yet feeling numb everywhere else. I threw open the door to my apartment, collapsed into a chair, and wept in solitude, ashamed that I had gotten it, afraid I was going to die, and, even though I was in a relationship at the time, worried that I would have to go through it all alone..."

OCTOBER 3, 1991!

 

"I want you to open your hearts and see the world in a different way. You get from the world what you give to the world. I promise this will change your life for the better." Oprah
" I see one-third of a nation ill-housed, ill-clad, and ill-nourished. The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little." F.D.R.-1937

 
Greetings,
Dr. Covey, in explaining Habit #2, advises:
"Write your own philosophy, mission statement, creed, belief system. Get it written into your heart and mind through the use of Imagination and your Emotion. "Don't tie yourself to your History, tie yourself to your Potential..." If you learn to imagine vividly enough and to also draw heavily upon the inner sense or conscious of what is right or wrong, you will come to detect the most fundamental principles that pertain to your life... And you can distill them into a Mission Statement."
He also advises that you do not attempt to complete this process rapidly. I've been working on mine for some time now And recently, I've come to arrive at this distillation:
To use the rest of my life the best I can so that the lives and places through which my journey leads me will remain a little bit better for me having passed their way.
 
 
Now presenting the
WHITE PAPER ON POVERTY
IN NORTHERN KENTUCKY
On behalf of the hundreds of people from various socio-economic backgrounds representing dozens of communities and organizations, I present the "White Paper on Poverty in Northern Kentucky".
Community Assessments have historically been used to determine the services people need, the level of services they actually receive and the barriers to gaps in services that exist. In presenting this report we hope:
  • to draw attention to the needs of Northern Kentuckians,
  • to focus on the causes of poverty, not simply the conditions,
  • to provide policy makers and professionals insight from those living with the problems
  • to initiate new direction for area human service agencies, healthcare providers, economic and workforce development organizations, government, ands other funders of services
  • to chart a new course for addressing the issues, one that is coordinated, comprehensive and integrated, --one designed by Northern Kentuckians in true cooperative spirit, and most importantly
  • to be a starting point
Empowering people and communities is the key to addressing poverty. In Northern Kentucky work groups are being convened in the topic areas addressed in the White Paper. Community Action takes seriously the responsibility to keep the process moving forward, to keep informed those already involved, to continue to seek out new partners and to proactively engage members from all segments of the CommUNITY. But do not wait for Community Action to contact you. If you wish to continue your commitment to being a part of the process, call and determine where your involvement can best be utilized.
Now is the time to thank all who have helped in getting us to this point, to gain commitments to continuing the process, and to accept the challenge to end or significantly reduce, poverty in Northern Kentucky in this decade. Let us know how you will be involved.
Sincerely;
Brian Angus, Executive Director
 
 
EPILOG - p.6
When referring to persons living in poverty, we need to consider that they are individuals and not "families." They may be a part of a family, but the struggle for survival is often a lonely undertaking. Those who have supportive families, do not feel the full impact of poverty and can better manage their health care. Those living alone, without families for support are in the greatest need for help. Therefore, in this document, the word "families" should be deleted from the general verbiage.
In order to have an impact on poverty and the need for health care in Northern Kentucky, the process of collaboration begun with the Poverty Symposium needs to continue. The recommendations and ideas expressed need to be translated into practical plans and policies to raise the level of health among those living in poverty and thus to raise the level of health for the entire Northern Kentucky community.

"White Paper on Poverty in Northern Kentucky". p. 29
TOPIC 8: ...safe, and healthy neighborhoods and communities with supportive social and spiritual networks, mutual respect across group boundaries, where each member is respected and provided opportunities to participate in civic affairs.
"What would our community look like if it were a really healthy place to live?" The National Civic League (NCL) posed this question to neighbors in hundreds of communities across the country. This is how people everywhere responded:
  • A clean and safe environment
  • A diverse and vibrant economy
  • A place that has good housing for all
  • A place where people respect and support each other
  • A place that promotes and celebrates its cultural and historical heritage
  • A place where citizens and government share power
  • A place that has affordable health care for all
  • A place that has good schools
  • A place that has and supports strong families
But we are moving away from this ideal. Many voluntary associations no longer have the influence or position in our communities they once had. For example, PTA participation has fallen dramatically, as has participation in Boy Scouts, Red Cross volunteers, labor unions membership, and civic clubs like the Lions and Elks. (Bowling Alone, by Robert Parker)
In the Gannet News "Mood of America" poll, 76 percent of citizens agreed, "there is less concern for others than there once was."
We must be careful not to over generalize, since some Northern Kentucky communities may not fit these trends fully, or even at all. There will always be crosscurrents and countertrends. A few communities may have high levels of interconnectedness and public participation, with few glaring social problems and plenty of resources. But these communities are the exceptions.
By and large, the quality of life and the social fabric of many Northern Kentucky communities are being threatened by these trends.
And there is no denying current social problems mirroring national trends, such as poverty, street violence, domestic abuse, drugs, racial/ethnic divides, urban sprawl and homelessness remain very much with us here in Northern Kentucky
How can Northern Kentucky address the Healthy Communities issues identified by the National Civic League?
Is the solution financial? Solutions often cost money, so, of course, more public funding to address local problems would be helpful. Support these efforts, but realize that in the present economic and political climate, success will not come easily and will cost each of us more than money. We need to understand there are no short-term solutions. We need CommUNITY Leaders who will engage, listen and translate the words into compelling long-term actions. Leaders who can then garner the support of government, private sector, faith community, public sector organizations and residents for the action plans.
President Bush, in his inaugural address said: "What you do is as important as anything government does. I ask you to seek a common good beyond your comfort; to defend needed reforms against easy attacks; to serve your nation, beginning with your neighbor. I ask you to be citizens. Citizens, not spectators. Citizens, not subjects. Responsible citizens, building communities of service and a nation of character."
Residents, along with the people who work, worship or have roots in a community need to be seen as an alternative resource, as someone with something important to share.
The task is to identify these alternative resources, then to coalesce and organize them, to plan, develop, implement, and sustain multiple community wide solutions. This will not happen all by itself. The structure for organizing and mobilizing community resources is generally not in place. A big plus is that people, 63 percent in one poll, believe that people are willing to pitch in and fix what is wrong in their communities, if they knew how. Mechanisms for involvement are rare, but do exist. Let us identify these processes and bring them into our communities.
America is the great democratic example, but because we lead there is no blueprint.
 

Thursday, April 29, 2004


Michael W. Connett
"The HIVe at Seminary Square"
1043 Russell Street-#1 * Covington, KY 41011

Darkness cannot drive out darkness, ,only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction... The Chain reaction of evil --hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars-- must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.

Martin Luther King, Jr. - 1963
 

"The opposite of love is not hate,
it's indifference.
The opposite of art is not ugliness,
it's indifference.
The opposite of faith is not heresy,
it's indifference.
And the opposite of life is not death,
it's indifference." -- Elie Wiesel
 

I have chosen this time and this place to discuss a topic on which
ignorance too often abounds and the truth is too rarely perceived -
yet it is the most important topic on earth: world peace. What kind
of peace do I mean? What kind of peace do we seek? Not a Pax
Americana enforced on the world by American weapons of war. Not the
peace of the grave or the security of the slave. I am talking about
genuine peace, the kind of peace that makes life on earth worth
living, the kind that enables men and nations to grow and to hope and
to build a better life for their children - not merely peace for
Americans but peace for all men and women, not merely peace in our
time but peace for all time... The United States, as the world knows,
will never start a war."
John F. Kennedy
Great occasions do not make heroes or cowards; they simply unveil them to the eyes. Silently and imperceptibly, as we wake or sleep, we grow strong or we grow weak, and at last some crisis shows us what we have become. -Bishop Westcott
 
I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. --- Eli Wiesel
"The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence
of all these living beings, which are all part of one another,
and all involved in one another." -Thomas Merton

Our stories are being hidden away in the Confidential HIV/AIDS Closet and our fellow Americans are being distracted by the more deserving and politically advantageous Global Faces & Stories of AIDS. Please understand that I empathize with their situation, but charity and compassion must come first at HOME.
The Comfort of the HIVe... 03/22/2002
"...not only because of the physical limitations it imposes, but because the prejudice surrounding AIDS exacts a social death which precedes the actual physical one." Tom Hanks in Philadephia
Still as true today as it was when first quoted in the movie "Philadelphia", the breadth of that social death, like the disease, has broadened into every segment of society. While the gay community, already well-versed in being regarded with disdain, rallied quickly to thumb their noses at and ward off that social shadow of death by organizing support systems and programs that would become the models that are imitated yet today, I now see a need to re-focus, energize and re-establish these social supports to be of greater value to the wider audience they now command. It often wrenchingly occurs to me that there are those among us who live in an HIV-closet because they are married/divorced, not Gay, not Male, not Adult or even not totally straight.

CommUNITY PRIDE Picnic & ROCK-the-VOTE Rally
 

On the heels of AIDS 2012, the 19th International HIV/AIDS Conference; a gathering to Come OUT & Stand Up! To MOVE Our CommUNITY FORWARD!

To paraphrase Phill Wilson's AIDS 2012 address: You see, I am a 3-fer. I am White, I am Gay, I am HIV+ clinically diagnosed with AIDS plus -according to AARP I could check off the senior box 7 years ago as well. But it is not lost on me all the things I am not. I am not a woman, a black man or a transgendered person. I am not an Asian Pacific Islander, Latino, Native American, Black or an immigrant. I am not an injecting drug user, sex worker, homeless (although I've experienced that) or the victim of domestic violence. But I know this; I know that we will not stop AIDS in this country unless ALL of those voices are included. ALL of what I am and am not must be a part of the conversation...
EVERYONE Living with or Affected by HIV MUST COME OUT. WE All must come out. Living Openly & PROUDLY with HIV, not only confronts HIV STIGMA, but it also helps build DEMAND for Essential Services. Openly HIV positive people SERVE as living, compelling reminders of the importance of knowing one's HIV status and that also communicates that it is possible to live a full healthy LIFE with HIV and THAT IS IMPORTANT!
"My greatest fear is that WE will squander this OPPORTUNITY..."
AIDS Free 2015

Come Out
Affected
"We're ALL in this together"
is a better philosophy than "YOU're on your own
Next POTUS
CommUNITY PRIDE Picnic & Rally
Sunday 10-7-2012
Goebel Park - 6th & Philadelphia Streets
Covington, Kentucky
Noon - 6:00 PM
Picnic/Family/Reunion Style Food:
We’ll fire up grills for whatever we get our hands on
then see who, what else comes to join us!
Music - Candidate Stumping - Entertainment - Door Prizes
FREE Copies of the National HIV/AIDS Strategy - Freebies
The South Bank HIVe is a Grassroots CommUNITY-Based On-line HIV/aids, Social Service and Survivors Support Network presented by Michael W. Connett LIVING Trust. The Mission of the Trust is "To use the rest of my life the best I can so that the people and places through which my journey leads me will remain a little bit better for me having passed their way..." Caring for the “Quality of Life” issues of the infected & affected who are now living longer and to prevent further infections; as seen thru the eyes of a long term survivor…
Neither The Trust or The HIVe are qualified (501(c)3) Non-Profits and the fundraising being conducted for the CommUNITY Pride Picnic & Rally on October 7th is not tax-exempt or deductible, much like a Political Action Committee. Given this consideration; we decided to ask attendees to bring for donation a side dish and/or a non-perishable food item which will be distributed to local Food Banks such as Be-Concerened and the Beneficiary of Financial Contributions over and above the cost of the event will be the Northern Kentucky Emergency Shelter under the direction of Ms. Rachael Winters. We thank you in advance, FOR YOUR SUPPORT...

Monday, September 10, 2012

WE Believe...

 




"we're all in this together" is a better philosophy than "you're on your own."

I've been thinking about what we want, need, dream of and wish for on Sunday ROCK-the VOTE-tober 7th! H/T to our Lovely Friend and Neighbor, Sandi @ Stony's; REMINDER that this years "Wee Fairy Folk Fest" precedes with fun for all on Saturday the 6th! The DEADLINE to REGISTER To VOTE is Tuesday the 9th and HRC's Annual "NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY" is on Thursday ROCKtober 11th... 

This October, in the 31st year of this grotesque calamity, marks the 21st year of my personal Journey through AIDS. More than 20 years and 20 million deaths since the first AIDS diagnosis in 1981, almost 38 million people (range 34.6 – 42.3 million) are living with HIV. AIDS is an extraordinary kind of crisis; it is both an emergency and a long-term development issue. Despite increased funding, political commitment and progress in expanding access to HIV treatment, the AIDS epidemic continues to outpace our response. No segment of humanity has been spared. The epidemic remains extremely dynamic, growing and changing character as the virus exploits new opportunities for transmission. This last year was our worst year ever, with 5 Million New HIV Infections (Prevention failures) and 3 Million Deaths (Treatment failures).

As AIDS Quilt founder Cleve Jones said in 2001; “Our hearts may be filled, but there are only two emotions worth expressing at this perilous time: GRIEF and RAGE. Grief for the millions who have died and are dying. Rage at the indifference, greed, and stupidity that permit this grotesque calamity to continue.” 

Indifference, greed and stupidity are also the three major ingredients in the American recipe for what has come to be known as AIDS Complacency. A Cultural phenomena against which every major player in the fight against it has warned us continually for as long as I can remember. Indifference which is rooted in the arrogance that it can’t happen to us, only “the right people”; mainly gays. Greed fueled by the profits, jobs and paychecks from the new industry and bureaucracy it spawned. Stupidity that feeds the intolerance, discrimination, stigmatization and demonization that prevents us from using every means available to prevent future infections as well as diagnose, treat and care for those who already have been...

When Mary Fisher took the stage at the Republican National Convention in 1992, she delivered a 13-minute prime-time speech disclosing her HIV-positive status to millions of people. It was the first time the Republican Party had openly dealt with the issue. She said; "I want to talk this morning about what it takes to create a community, because I believe the idea of an "AIDS community" is mostly a myth. There is no such beast. Some of us have AIDS; some of us enjoy community. But we'd be hard-pressed to give any kind of definition or meaning to the idea of an "AIDS community." And it's too bad this is true. If ever there was a group in need of community, it's the group represented here this morning: people with AIDS and those who care about us. We would be a community full of suffering and stigma, but also a community full of humor and power. We could be an international community, because the virus has made us so; we could be a supportive community if we would make us so. The virus has done a marvelous job of finding those who are Black and White, gay and straight, young and old, male and female, African and American. But we've not yet learned to imitate the virus's ability to enroll everyone in a single community..."
 
I was just a year into My Journey; filing for my disability benefits, worrying how I'd get by and fearing that I'd be dead in just a few years and that spoke to me! By then, we knew that it was HIV that progressed to AIDS and treatment could halt that progression and enable people to live a longer and somewhat normal life. Creating that elusive CommUNITY that she spoke of was the guiding purpose that led to the creation of The South Bank HIVe: For the Northern Kentucky HIV CommUNITY living on The South Bank; our "Circle of Friends" and supporters: An Online CommUNITY-Based HIV/aids, Social Service and Survivors Support Network! The Mission of this Collaborative Collective is simply to “Take up the slack” that now exists in tending to the “Quality of Life” issues of the infected/affected who are now living longer, preventing further infections and achieving the Goals of OUR "National HIV/AIDS Strategy".

The purpose for which the HIVe is therefore gathered is the funding, advocacy and provision of The HIV/AIDS: AESOP (Activism/Awareness - EDUCATION - SUPPORT - OUTreach - Prevention/PRIDE/Progress) INITIATIVE via Social MEDIA Tools, Resources & Support services.


On the heels of AIDS 2012, the International HIV/AIDS Conference held in Washington, D.C. this July; We are gathering to Come OUT & Stand Up! To MOVE Our CommUNITY FORWARD and KEEP THE PROMISES!

To paraphrase Phill Wilson's AIDS 2012 address: You see, I am a 3-fer. I am White, I am Gay, I am HIV+ clinically diagnosed with AIDS plus -according to AARP I could check off the senior box 7 years ago as well. But it is not lost on me all the things I am not. I am not a woman, a black man or a transgendered person. I am not an Asian Paci
fic Islander, Latino, Native American, Black or an immigrant. I am not an injecting drug user, sex worker, homeless (although I've experienced that) or the victim of domestic violence. But I know this; I know that we will not stop AIDS in this country unless ALL of those voices are included. ALL of what I am and am not must be a part of the conversation...

EVERYONE Living with and Affected by HIV MUST COME OUT. WE All must come out. Living Openly & PROUDLY with HIV, not only confronts HIV STIGMA, but it also helps build DEMAND for Essential Services. Openly HIV positive people SERVE as living, compelling reminders of the importance of knowing one's HIV status and that also communicates that it is possible to live a full healthy LIFE with HIV and THAT IS IMPORTANT!

"My greatest fear is that WE will squander this OPPORTUNITY..."
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A Brighter Day Comes

 
 
 
Sunday October 7th, 2012
Goebel Park - 6th & Philadephia Streets
Covington, Kentucky
Noon - 6:00 PM
 
Fun for the whole family - Food - Music
Candidate Stumping - Entertainment - Door Prizes
Current HIV/AIDS Info - Copies of the National HIV/AIDS Strategy - Freebies
 
For more info or if you'd like to donate, please contact Michael Connett @ 859-261-HIVe1 (4481) or Pam Mullins @ 859-750-2098